The Dating Game- Why I Don’t Need It


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Recently, I went on one of the dating apps, just to see what was out there. I know what you are thinking “um, remember how you are going to be single for a year?” Yes, I remember, but I also don’t think that means I can’t date. I know how I am, it takes me forever to meet someone who even kind of interests me. I think, especially now that I have a clear picture of who I would want in my life, it’s going to take even longer.

So, back to the app. Within the first 10 hours of being on the damn thing, I had messages from 65 different men. They all wanted a date that week and couldn’t imagine why I wouldn’t commit to one. I don’t know because I’m completely overwhelmed and don’t really want to go out with any of you? After awhile, I started talking to one guy who seemed interesting and like someone, I would really get along with, so we agreed to have dinner. When our date rolled around I noticed something about me, I’m no longer nervous about dates. Why? I think I have finally reached a point where I really, truly don’t need everyone to like me. You either do or you don’t. And let’s face it, if you don’t you’re really missing out.

Anyway, he was a super nice guy, we had a lot of similar interests and he had a lot of qualities I really appreciate in a man. However, he was so boring and the conversation was really one-sided. I walked away from dinner feeling really okay with the fact that I didn’t feel anything with him. It dawned on me the next day, I do not need to date nor do I necessarily want to. I’m quite content with my life as it is. I also realize that I do not think the dating app scene is for me anymore. It’s too much and too time-consuming. It could be a full-time job. I have since deleted all online dating profiles.

I’ve talked to some people about my single for a year project and a lot of them expressed the same concern, “What if you randomly meet the perfect person and it’s only been 6 months?” Again, I’m not being super strict here, I’m not going to run away screaming from someone shouting “But it hasn’t been a year!!” I’m realistic, something could happen. However, it’s going to take someone really amazing to get me back into a relationship. So, until that happens or if that happens #singleforayear continues on.



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